People get momentary satisfaction when they draw you into their struggle

You know how we talk endlessly about when you move in the direction of who you are and what you want, that that’s where satisfaction is?

Someone who’s nowhere near that gets satisfaction in drawing you into their struggle. That’s why they go so hard after it. They draw you in and draw you in and, for a moment, they feel soothed.

When you’re finally crying with them as hard as they are crying, and finally feeling the pain as much as they are feeling the pain, they have momentary satisfaction because they don’t feel so alone. Because they’ve calibrated to other humans. They’re not even close to calibrating to their inner being.

That’s why so many humans go there in the pain with them. But you’re not solving the problem. You’re becoming part of the problem.

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