Relationships quotes

It’s not your role to make others happy

It is not your role to make others happy; it is your role to keep yourself in balance.

When you pay attention to how you feel and practice self-empowering thoughts that align with who-you-really-are, you will offer an example of thriving that will be of tremendous value to those who have the benefit of observing you.

You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive or sick enough to help sick people get well. You only ever uplift from your position of strength and clarity and alignment.

Abraham, Excerpted from Money and the Law of Attraction on 8/31/08


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Standing outside of the confused group

A bunch of weak people, even in numbers, aren’t strong. Get a whole bunch of confused people together and see how much clarity comes out of it. In other words, you just can’t add one more confused person to the pot, and expect to get any more clarity.

One - standing outside of the confused group - who is clear, is more powerful than a million who are confused.

Abraham, Excerpted from Albuquerque, NM on 9/1/04

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Take no satisfaction from someone being wrong

We would like you to reach the place where you’re not willing to listen to people criticize one another… where you take no satisfaction from somebody being wrong… where it matters to you so much that you feel good, that you are only willing to think positive things about people…you are only willing to look for positive aspects; you are only willing to look for solutions, and you are not willing to beat the drum of all of the problems of the world.

Abraham, Excerpted from Cincinnati, OH on 9/22/04


Only you can rock your boat

What others are doing around you seems very important when you have not found your own steadiness.

You want to say to them, “Don’t rock my boat! If you rock my boat, I can’t be steady.”

But the truth of it is, you’re the only boat-rocker in your world. Only you can rock your boat.

Abraham, Excerpted from Phoenix, AZ on 2/1/14


I’ll not ask others to become different for me

Let your Vibrational Escrow percolate, and you do your best to give it your undivided attention so that you become a Vibrational Match to it.

And then, when the Law of Attraction brings all of it together and brings you, because you’re a match, together with it – then there aren’t any bugs to work out.

Don’t ask the person, or people, that helped you to define what you want to become what you want so that you can have what you want. (Oh, that was so good.) Instead, let them be the Step One part of it (the asking part).

Use your willpower and your decision to focus upon what you want – and then the Universe will bring you what you want.

Abraham, Excerpted from The Vortex on 8/31/09


The way you’re being treated is because of the vibration that you’re offering

Guest : I love my job, but not how the boss treats the staff.

Abraham : There’s something really important that most people don’t want to hear from us but we always tell them anyway: The way you’re being treated is because of the vibration that you’re offering and it feels the other way around. It feels like they’re behaving a certain way and you’re responding to it and it doesn’t matter which came first, they can behave that way and you can respond, or you can have that vibration going on which evokes more of that behaviour. But it’s a cycle that only you can change.

Because if you’re waiting for them to behave differently so that you can feel better, you’re always going to be waiting for that because they’re not that interested in creating your reality. You have to find a way of changing the way you’re responding and when you do, they have to offer you something different, they just have to.


You sort of have to do it at home, when you’re not with them, to change the momentum. If we were in your physical shoes, we’d go home, we’d find a way of feeling better about it, and then we’d go to work and see if it fixed anything. Then, we’d take whatever comes, fall from the plane, no parachute, go home, try to get another vantage point, then we’d go to work the next day and see if it fixed anything.

And before you know it, you’re going to discover that you’ve accomplished a different point of attraction and things are going to shift. And what’s going to shift is, sometimes that guy goes away and another guy comes in that’s more in keeping with what you like. Sometimes you get fired. The Universe is very clever about the way it yields something, but when one door closes another one always opens. Or if you do it through alignment, the other door always opens before the other door closes.

Abraham-Hicks, Chicago, Il, 9/22/12


Attempting to Control Others Attracts More to Be Controlled

It is easy to understand how you would come to the conclusion that your path to feeling good is through influencing or controlling the behavior of others. But as you attempt to control them (through influence or coercion), you discover that not only can you not contain them – but your attention to them brings more like them into your experience.

You simply cannot get to where you want to be by controlling or eliminating the unwanted.

Abraham, Excerpted from the book “The Vortex”


Standing On Your Head To Make Disconnected People Happy

In other words, you just can’t stand on your head in enough different ways to make disconnected people happy, because what you’re doing isn’t what’s bothering them anyway.

It’s their own disallowance of the Energy. And to just play into that by standing on your head only perpetuates this myth about conditional love, you see.

Abraham, G-2/18/95


You are not in jeopardy because you create your own reality

You are the creator of your own reality, and so you are not in jeopardy. You do not need to control the behavior of others in order for you to thrive.

Your attention to things that you think they do that keeps you from your thriving is, in fact, what keeps you from your thriving… It is not what they do to you; it’s what you do to you in fear of what you think that they will do to you.

Abraham, Excerpted from Philadelphia, PA on 5/12/05


When you’re really tuned into who you are

When you’re really tuned into who you are, you can’t see a flaw in someone. And if you see a flaw in someone, it’s not their flaw.



You cannot evoke strength by focusing on weakness

We cannot focus upon the weaknesses of one another and evoke strengths. You cannot focus upon the things that you think they are doing wrong, and evoke things that will make you feel better.

You’ve got to beat the drum that makes you feel good when you beat it.

And when you do, you’ll be a strong signal of influence that will help them to reconnect with who they are.

Abraham, Excerpted from Washington, DC on 10/16/04

Life Is About Relationships

You will never find yourself in a point in time when the subject of relationships is not an active part of your now experience, for everything you perceive or notice or know is because of your relationship with something else.

Without a comparative experience, you would be unable to perceive or focus any kind of understanding within yourself. Therefore, it is accurate to say that without relationships you could not exist at all.

Abraham, Excerpted from The Vortex on 8/31/09


When you decide that you want to feel good, and you reach for the vibration that feels good to you and you establish that as your tone, either the people around you will be uplifted to join you in that vibration or, if their vibration is already very well chosen otherwise, they will clatter right out of your experience.

But what happens to most of you is, while they are clattering out of your experience, you notice they’re clattering. You begin to clatter too, and then they clatter right back into your experience, and you clatter together miserably and continually.

Abraham, Asheville, NC, G-9/5/98

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